Emotional abuse can happen in a variety of ways, usually by manipulating or controlling another persons emotions. The most common forms of emotional abuse happen among people who are in relationships, married, or dating; they can also happen among friends, family, and even co-workers. Emotionally abusive relationships or friendships that are consistently putting the other person down, lowering their quality of mental health and self-esteem are considered to be abusive. The abusers goal is to control the other person by using hurtful means to gain control. This form of abuse can be one of the most challenging to spot and usually happens in cycles. It may be difficult for the emotionally abused to leave the toxic environment, friendship, or relationship, because they feel afraid and emotionally wounded.
If you feel wounded, frustrated, confused, misunderstood, depressed, anxious, or worthless any time you interact with the other person, chances are high that your relationship is emotionally abusive.
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Signs of Emotional Abuse
Here is a list of the most common signs of emotional abuse, compiled by Verywell Mind:
- Unrealistic expectations
- Invalidates you
- Creates chaos
- Uses emotional blackmail
- Acts superior
- Controls and isolates you
Types of emotional abuse:
- Accusations of cheating or other signs of jealousy and possessiveness
- Constant checking on or attempting to control the other person’s behavior
- Constantly arguing or opposing
- Criticizing
- Gaslighting
- Isolating the individual from their family and friends
- Name-calling and verbal abuse
- Refusing to participate in the relationship
- Shaming or blaming
- Silent treatment
- Trivializing the other person’s concerns
- Withholding affection and attention
The consequences of emotional abuse can be just as severe as physical abuse. Those who are emotionally wounded may experience heart palpitations, stomach ulcers, and insomnia. It is important to make yourself a priority by focusing on what your emotional needs are and setting healthy boundaries. If the abusive person tries to argue with you, walk away and remember that you can not change that person. Having a healthy support group of close friends can help in battling feelings of loneliness and isolation, also creating a supportive and safe environment for healing and healthy communication. Creating an exit plan is a safe way to take steps in leaving an abusive situation if the abuse begins to escalate. Healing from this form of abuse can take time, so be gentle with yourself and bring more compassion to your heart and mind. Reach out to your therapist for treatment options, support groups, and resources.
Reference: https://www.verywellmind.com/trauma-bonding-5207136
